Resilience: An Emotional Intelligence Competency We Need Today

We are focusing more now on emotional intelligence (EQ), as it becomes increasingly evident that it can be the crucial factor in determining success and happiness in our careers and relationships. Once we have the fundamentals in place--education, expertise, and skills--how we handle ourselves and others is what makes the difference.

Resilience is an important EQ competency. It means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face the future with optimism and courage despite events. Because life will have its ups and downs, one of the most important things we can do is learn how to bolster our resilience. We can do this by understanding the competencies that make people resilient and then working with a coach to improve our skills in these areas.

Being resilient is going to be extremely important in the future as the pace of change continues to escalate.

People who are the most resilient have these competencies:

1. They are reflective, able to look back on experiences and extract the kernels of wisdom from them.

2. They don't back off from realisty, but face it squarely, labeling things for what they are--setbacks, losses, disappointments.

3. They know their feelings, label them correctly, and express them fluently and routinely to others.

4. They are able to separate timezones--past from present from future.

5. They commit to the agony of grieving for as long as it takes.

6. They find meaning and purpose in their struggles, knowing that they will benefit in the end by a greater understanding of the fundamentals of live.

7. They have a high EQ, including being able to think flexibly and creatively under stress. They expand rather than shut down when faced with a challenge.

8. They keep a reserve of energy built up through regular periods of rest and renewal.

9. They have a strong network of individuals they can depend upon, and who know and accept them as they are.

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Motivation Myth "The Sky Has Never Been The Limit" Part 1

Motivation myth- introduction

What exactly are you capable of achieving? What is a realistic expectation for your life and what constitutes sheer madness? Is there a limit to how high you should aim?

The simple answer to these questions is simply that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to; if you can think it, then it’s a realistic expectation; and you can aim as high as you want.

Motivation myth- the sky has never been the limit

We have probably all heard the “wise” saying: “the sky is the limit.” This would seem to have a lot of wisdom in it at first glance. However, it implies that man’s potential has a limit when in actual fact, man’s potential is limitless. Let’s examine what exactly your potential as a human being is.

Firstly, let’s define potential. Potential is all that you can be, but have not yet become. It is all you can accomplish, but have not yet accomplished. It is unexposed or dormant ability.

This means that the ability to become and to do is already there. It just hasn’t been brought out and utilized.

Consider a fertilized human egg (zygote). That single cell has the ability to form every part of the human body. Everything from your brain to your toenails can be formed by that single cell. It has unlimited potential.

Motivation myth- your potential is limitless

Similarly, the mind of man has unlimited potential. It has the limitless ability to create. Man has been on earth for thousands of years, yet we are still making new discoveries today and creating new things everyday. We cannot exhaust the creative power of our minds.

The functioning of our minds remains, for the most part, a mystery even to modern day science. But even though we do not understand it’s functioning, we cannot deny its power.

Motivation myth- you have the power within

Your most powerful asset is your mind. The answer to the question ‘what is a realistic goal and what is achievable’ is entirely up to you. If your mind can accept that something is achievable, it will find a way to attain that thing.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” These are the immortal words of Napoleon Hill, a man who truly understood that “there are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge.”

Your possibilities are limited only by your thinking. What may be a limit for one person is a walk in the park for another. It’s all in the mindset.

Your potential as a human being, then, is unlimited. You have within you the ability to become and to achieve anything you want. Now that you understand that your potential is limitless, your next challenge is to answer the question: what do you want out of life?